Style began to discover that confidence was a critical part of the game: PUAs needed it to complete successful pickups, and they gained it from their successes. Many newcomers to the community had spent Shortform summaries help you learn 10x faster by: Shortform guides make you smarter by:.
Here's a preview of the rest of Shortform's The Game summary: guide:. Neil Strauss, a journalist and the author of The Game , always struggled with women. Since he was a teenager, he felt self-conscious and awkward around the opposite sex, which led to rejection, creating a vicious cycle. Then, in the early s, when Neil was in his early 30s, he got a call from a book editor who wanted him to write a book modeled after The How-to-Lay-Girls Guide , a manual for picking up women.
The guide sourced advice from dozens of pickup artists PUAs , and it had been circulating in an online community of men Mystery was a celebrated PUA who had written more than 3, posts on the community message boards. Mystery started offering workshops for PUAs-in-training shortly after Neil joined the community; naturally, Neil had to sign up. However, while Jeffries led seminars, Mystery was the first to bring trainees into clubs for real-time coaching.
Although Neil was investigating the community for his book assignment, he also earnestly wanted to learn from the PUAs. He hoped that this could signal the end of his struggles with women.
However, Neil was also embarrassed to admit that he was so bad with women that he was now paying for advice from self-proclaimed experts. Which have you abided by, if any? Neil had been frequenting bars and clubs, practicing his craft with other men from the community.
Between his practice and his posts to the online message boards, Neil was quickly moving up in the seduction community. Neil refused to miss out on this chance to apprentice with a guru, so he convinced Mystery to hold his next workshop in Belgrade. Mystery dubbed him Style. Style began training rigorously to improve his game in the six weeks before the next workshop. Mystery had another workshop coming up in two months, in Miami. Style set a goal to meet all the top pickup artists PUAs before then.
The seduction community had several pickup gurus, each pedaling a different seduction strategy. The gurus competed for disciples, discrediting each other in the process.
Juggler advocated tactics that were bold and unorthodox. For example, he told his students to get over their fear of picking up women by calling random numbers from the phone book and asking for movie recommendations, or by convincing a homeless person to give them a quarter. Juggler also encouraged PUAs-in-training to make their pickups more challenging by telling women that they worked as garbage men or Pickup tactics range from arrogant humor to hypnosis, and the effectiveness of each one depends on the conviction of the person using it.
He had forged friendships with some of the men, and they went out sarging together regularly. At the same time, the community was growing. Local seduction communities were popping up and flourishing around the world. Style was enjoying his new powers—especially after so many years of feeling completely inadequate around women. As it turned out, his months of preparation, meetings with gurus, and hypnosis training paid off.
The community was expanding rapidly with young members —some still in high school— who wanted to emulate the master pickup artists PUAs. The new members wanted not only seduction technique, but also day-to-day advice, such as where to apply to college. Many of the young, new sargers that were constantly joining the community looked up to Style and studied his posts. A year after joining the community, Style had become a true master of the game.
One post on the message board had even named Style the best PUA. Download PDF Summaries. Download PDF Versions. With his article on the seduction community and his new assignment to interview Tom Cruise, Neil was reclaiming some of his old life—but he was keeping one foot firmly planted in the community.
He was effortlessly confident—a quintessential AMOG. In the film Magnolia , Cruise even played Frank T. Mackey, a seduction guru that Ross Jeffries claims to have inspired. Cruise lamented that a guru like the fictional Mackey could seduce men into thinking that seduction tactics are the best way to approach women and initiate relationships.
To Neil, it felt reminiscent of how Dustin had The response was overwhelming. What is one way you could be more effective in your life—personal or professional—by using seduction tactics and principles of social interactions? One was Courtney Love. Love texted Style one night, telling him that she was overwhelmed with bills and the task of keeping her life in order without a manager.
She asked Style if she could stay at Project Hollywood for a little while. Love made herself right at home in the house. Love was a messy house guest —she left open jars of peanut butter and jelly scattered around the kitchen, with sticky smears streaking the counters— but she quickly endeared herself to everyone in Project Hollywood. The other new roommate would also become well-liked among many of the housemates, but she would also lead to the breakup of the original Project Hollywood housemates.
Her name was Katya. Mystery met Katya—a chipper Russian woman in her early 20s—during a workshop. A couple days later, Mystery invited her to come by the mansion to hang out. Within a couple weeks, Katya and her dog had moved into Many men in the community had allowed seduction to consume their lives.
As a result, they had nothing else—family relationships, outside friendships, professional success—to cushion their self-esteem, so rejection from women rocked their whole world. A pickup artist PUA is only a PUA if he successfully picks up women, which means that his entire value within the community is based on how women respond to him.
Many men in the community developed a hard shell of misogyny to protect their egos when women rejected them. Additionally, the act of sarging turned human interaction into a game, which inevitably objectified women:. The very concept of Project Hollywood—as a place for men who dedicated their lives to chasing women to coexist peacefully—had been flawed all along.
Seduction techniques taught men to be alpha males to attract women. Most of these men had spent their lives being pushed around by other alpha males, so when they started to embody alpha traits themselves, it could be intoxicating. How do we get rid of him? As you interact, pay attention to the people who seem most likely to shut you out-the jealous men and overprotective friends.
Make them feel good about themselves as you challenge, tease, and neg the target. Is she always like that? How do you deal with her? This is called a push-pull. Push-Pull: a technique used to create or increase attraction, in which a man gives a woman indications that he is not interested in her followed by indications that he is.
After the opening interaction, demonstrate value. Then pretend like you have to get back to your friends. You are in. When it comes time to leave, tell the group you lost your friends and need a ride home. This will give the woman an opportunity to be alone with you without letting her friends know she plans to sleep with you. If the logistics are too difficult, get her number and make a plan to hang out later in the week. When she pulls up to your house, give her another false time constraint: tell her you have to get to sleep early because you have a lot of work tomorrow.
Continue using a combination of time constraints and push-pull to amp her attraction. Keep telling her she has to leave soon. Then use the evolution phase-shift routine: smell her, bite her arm, let her bite your neck, bite her neck, and then kiss. You should always be the first one to object. This is called stealing her frame. Yes-Ladder: capturing her attention by asking questions that require an obvious affirmative answer. Rocks vs Gold: women in a relationship want rocks — wonderful nights out, romantic attention, and emotional connection — while men seek gold — sex.
If you give a woman only gold or a man just rocks, neither will be satisfied. There must be an exchange. Learn how to take a compliment. Simply finding out that you have a passion for something another person also likes and respects is enough to fire chemistry. When two people discover they have things in common, pheromones are released and attraction begins. I had just learned that lesson. Most men eventually learn that lesson.
There is a downside to casual sex: Sometimes it stops being casual. People develop a desire for something more. We were all searching outside ourselves for our missing pieces, and we were all looking in the wrong direction. The answers were to be found within. To win the game was to leave it. The only newsletter I subscribe to that I actually look forward to. Share on facebook Facebook.
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